I talk to women all the time who are so scared to rock the boat.
They don’t want to say or do the “wrong” thing, so they go along to get along.
This will never give a woman what she wants when it comes to love and intimacy.
She feels so anxious, and nervous about the relationship, where it’s headed, or if he’ll pull away.
She is scared of losing him and he feels this. She respects what he wants over her own wants and needs, and he feels this too.
This turns him off.
Men want a woman who can hold her own and stand her ground.
I’ve found in my work with women that most don’t know how to go toe-to-toe with a man in a way where he can hear it, understand it, and to then be inspired to move close.
Yes, having disagreements can actually bring a man closer.
I remember in my own relationship, I used to exhaust myself by just going along until I couldn’t hold it in anymore and would explode. I would end up overreacting to something small, and have so much regret. He would pull away, as he found me emotionally unsafe…He stopped sharing and confiding in me as he was scared of how I would react.
I didn’t know how to communicate my needs in the moment, so would allow them to build until one day I would just erupt. This then caused him to feel like he didn’t know what would set me off, so he shut down, and started to share less and less.
I learned how to break this pattern and it changed everything in my marriage. My marriage went from cold and distant, to loving and connected. If you would have asked me before if it were possible to have the kind of relationship I have with my husband, I would have told you no.
It is completely possible for you too. Trust me, if I can do it, so can you. It doesn’t matter what stage of the relationship you’re in either, it’s never too soon or too late.
I now stay on my side of the street. I’m not over in his head trying to guess what he wants or doesn’t want, then making decisions from that space.
I speak kindly and respectfully about what I want and don’t want.
I don’t live in fear of him experiencing strong emotions or getting angry.
I simply allow him to have his own emotional experience, and don’t try to control or manage the outcome.
This feels incredibly empowering!
This is what it means to surrender control and let go.
When a woman learns how to let go of the need to control and manage the relationship, she gives a man the freedom to have his own emotional experience. She trusts that he’ll work it out, and then gives him the space to do just that!
In turn, he feels that trust. He starts to feel respected and valued. He starts to feel safe to open up and connect to her. The more we demonstrate trust in him, the more he’s going to want to do the right thing and step up.
Overtime the emotional intimacy will return in such a powerful way!
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