Releasing the “Normal” That Was Never Healthy

When we’re children, we absorb rather than observe everything.

Our environment becomes our definition of normal.
The energy in our home.
The way love was expressed- or withheld.
How conflict was handled.

All of this becomes the subconscious blueprint for how we understand life and relationships.

If we grew up in chaos or constant conflict, we may have longed for peace- but still normalized dysfunction. Our nervous system adapted to survive, not necessarily to thrive.

When “Normal” No Longer Fits

As adults, we begin to see that maybe that version of normal wasn’t so healthy after all.

We start to crave something deeper:
peace, ease, healthy connection.

And this is often where resistance kicks in.

Even when our conscious mind wants healing and change, our subconscious may be trying to protect us by clinging to the familiar.

Conflict may feel safer than peace.
Disconnection may feel more comfortable than vulnerability.

Why?

Because it’s what we know.

And what we know, even when painful-often feels safer than the unknown.

The Resistance Is Part of the Initiation

Releasing the false identities formed in survival doesn’t happen quietly.

Your ego and nervous system will resist.
They will fight to protect the version of you that once kept you safe.

This resistance is not weakness.

It’s a sign you’re standing at the threshold of transformation.

To move forward, we must allow the shedding.

To say yes to your desires means saying no to the comfort of old patterns.

It means becoming the woman willing to endure temporary discomfort for long-term wholeness.

Embodying Your Beloved Identity

This is the journey of embodying your beloved identity.

The one aligned with God, with love, and with truth-not your trauma.
The identity rooted in divine worth, not a wounded past.

Ask yourself gently:

• Where am I avoiding resistance because I fear what I’ll have to let go of?

• Where am I choosing comfort over the life I deeply desire?

• Where am I still clinging to a false identity that no longer fits who I’m becoming?

Your wholeness is not something you earn.

It’s something you remember and return to.

And the path to remembering always requires a willingness to release what was never truly you in the first place.

If you’re committed to releasing false identities and stepping into the truth of who you are so you can thrive in life and love, book an Introductory Call with me to get started! You will receive guidance, clarity, and direct coaching advice on this call. Sign up HERE.