Embrace Change And Transform Your Life

I talk with many women who have a burning desire to change the trajectory of their love life. 

This desire, while pure and beautiful, can also create a lot of stress and anxiety.

Many women share with me that having such big desires can cause them to feel stuck in a perpetual state of longing. 

They get stuck in seeking outside of themselves which leads to tendencies such as people-pleasing, worrying about what others think, looking for external validation, or wearing a mask of perfectionism. 

We all have so much more power than we realize.

We are truly conscious creators.

When we wake up to this, everything changes. As Abrahma Hicks says, ”You have the energy that creates worlds inside of you.” 

If you’re on the path of learning to embrace more of who you are each day, I promise it will begin to matter to you less and less what another person thinks of you. 

If your inner little girl feels seen and loved by you, or if you’re showing up willing to meet yourself in this way, you’re giving yourself a gift that will have a profound impact on your life.

This is how you set yourself up to move towards what you desire with unwavering courage, faith, and trust. 

I remember when I was at the peak of anxiety in my life.  I kept asking “How do I get out of this?”

I was in a state of chronic worry, people pleasing, and constantly attempting to control others’ perception of me. 

I wanted to change my life. I longed to feel differently but felt powerless.  

The cycle of thought looping and analyzing everything had become so habitual I often figured that I was a lost cause. 

Then my husband told me one afternoon in our first year of marriage “I can’t make you happy, so I’m going to stop trying.”

And he did. 

I realized about a month later that he was right.

 No one could make me happy. 

No one could hold space for me.

I wasn’t anywhere close to being able to do this for myself so anything he did to try to “make me happy” was a short-lived experience, as I’d be right back to worrying and needing something else within a week or two. 

He stopped enabling my victim mentality. 

I didn’t realize it at the time, but this was one of the many beautiful gifts he gave me. 

So, I was left with no choice but to work on myself or get a divorce. 

I dove full in and let me tell you, it wasn’t graceful or easy. 

I had to come face to face with myself, something I unknowingly avoided for my entire life. 

Coming face to face with ourselves can look different for each of us, but I’ll share with you the 

choices I made that year that led to me not only healing my relationship, but healing myself. 

I learned how to knit. I knit scarves, mittens, and tried to unsuccessfully knit a hat.

I joined a local knitting group to connect with women while keeping my hands busy. I learned a valuable lesson: Using my hands helps me regulate my nervous system. 

I signed up for yoga teacher training.

I connected with like-minded people interested in yoga and mindfulness.

My mind couldn’t ruminate as much as I was learning a new skill which forced present moment awareness.

I didn’t want to teach yoga, but loved that the practice invited me to turn my head off, so I wanted to learn more ways to grow in my ability to release fear and connect to the present moment. 

I started walking.

I took loads of walks, I discovered nature soothed me and stopped me from saying and doing things that were unhealthy and put me back in my head. 

I hired my first coach.

She taught me how to get out of my head and connect to my heart.

She also helped me see the WHY behind the patterns that led to my thought looping and constant worry. 

Expanding my world in these ways had a profound impact on my life over time. 

Little did I know, I was setting myself up to completely change my life. I was truly becoming a different person and didn’t even know it at the time. 

My marriage also began to heal.

He felt and saw that I was humbly, authentically, and willingly working on myself.

This opened his heart again and everything began to change within our relationship.  

If you are feeling like there is no hope for you, no matter what your circumstances are, I invite you to start where you are.

It may seem like nothing is happening in the beginning, but the bricks you lay each day will turn into a magnificent home. 

 I opened up new slots on my calendar for those of you feeling the call for support right now. 

 

Book a 1:1 call with me to discuss your situation and we’ll come up with a plan that leaves you feeling confident on how to move forward. 

I’ll leave you with a favorite quote from Mary Oliver:

“Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift.”

Love, 

Jen

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