Three Ways You Push Him Away

Love and intimacy can be deeply counterintuitive for many of us.

We’ll often think what we’re doing, the strategies we’re forming, or the instincts we’re reacting to are moving us closer and more quickly towards the relationship we want.

This couldn’t be further from the truth when it comes to attracting and maintaining connection with a high quality masculine energy man. 

I remember when I was dating the ways in which I would try to speed a connection  up only to find I just set myself back even more through my reactivity and impatience. 

I want to share with you three sneaky ways we think we’re pulling him closer but so often end up pushing him away instead. 

  1. Being Too Available 

What I mean by this is that you’re caught in worry about missing out or maintaining his interest so are “reachable” at any time. 

There is a fear that unless you’re available, you may miss your chance to connect with him. 

Consider this is a belief rooted in scarcity and as you begin to direct the focus towards yourself and all that you offer, you naturally allow him to see your value at a higher level. 

I invite you to fill your life up, stay true to what you love to do, and trust that you don’t have to be accessible at all times to receive love. 

You are worth it. 

  1. Reaching Out From Insecurity  

Redirect anxious energy so you’re not giving your power away by looking for ways outside of yourself to soothe. 

There are so many ways in which many reach out from insecurity and try to hide it under a casual hello or check in. 

Consider that energy doesn’t lie and you want to hold yourself accountable in not reaching out from a space of reminding or prompting him. 

Allow him to show you who he is and reconnect to your own sense of self worth. Direct your energy inward (feminine) and stop directing it outward (masculine). 

This will shift the energetic exchange  and others can feel when our energy has gone from being focused on the external to moving it internally to focus on ourselves. 

3. Overinvesting Emotionally Too Soon

Pay attention to his actions versus his morning greeting, mid day check in or goodnight text. 

Words are meaningless if not backed by action. 

I have seen so many situations where one falls into a pattern of valuing a man’s words over his actions only to find that at the end of the day,  he is not true to his word. 

This leaves us feeling emotionally over invested in someone who is inconsistent and in a perpetual state of waiting!

It may feel good at the time to hear him express what we’ve been longing to hear, but it’s critical to not pin our hopes and future desires on his words simply because they feel good in the moment. 

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You’ll also learn how to deepen your feminine energy and the heart-centered communication skills necessary to create a “forever bond” relationship that’s loving, passionate and enduring.

It is for women in all stages of love whether you’re single and working on yourself, dating, in a relationship, or marriage.


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