Have you ever shared a desire with a man and somehow it got terribly misunderstood?
As women, it is so important to be deeply connected to the space in which we’re expressing ourselves from.
If we are sharing from our deepest pain points or subconsciously make him responsible for our happiness and well-being in even the most subtle ways, trust that he will feel more resistance than inspiration.
This is because as a woman you are a powerful creator.
If our point of attraction is fear based in any way, it’s only going to create more fear over time.
The invitation is to begin working with all the messy emotions coming up within so that we can alchemize them into a desire that feels full, expansive, courageous, and loving.
When we can recognize when our cup is empty and spend time feeling our way through what’s coming up, we will understand and therefore approach our desires from a very different space.
When we allow unprocessed emotions to take over which often leads to a bout of reactivity taking over, we won’t trust ourselves and he won’t feel emotionally safe with us either.
A woman that can be with her feelings without adding a story to them is able to create from a very different space.
Her energy is moving out of fear and she is moving into a willingness to understand and tend to herself differently.
Trust that when this happens, she will express her desires to the masculine from a very different space.
When she knows how to fill up her own cup yet share what she longs to create from a space of possibility, hope, and wholeness, she will see him step up in ways she never knew were possible.
This is because her point of attraction is rooted in courage and security within. She knows how necessary it is to tend to herself well, to ground, and steady herself before taking action.
It’s from this space that he will feel free to step up and CONTRIBUTE to her happiness versus feeling RESPONSIBLE for it. This activates a profound and magical exchange between the masculine and feminine.
Can you feel the difference?
I invite you to practice turning in to see what is alive within before expressing yourself to him.
I am confident that over time you will begin drawing out a very different side in him and in the masculine as a whole.
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Love,
Jen